Wieder erhältlich ab Anfang September!

101 Kapitel mit kinky Tipps, in denen auch immer wieder die Wichtigkeit der Kommunikation und Konsens hervorgehoben sowie ggfs. Warnungen ausgesprochen werden.

Verlagsbeschreibung:

An accessible and fun guide to kinky practices for everyone

Everything you wanted to know about kinky practices is covered in this highly entertaining and readable book. Known for her bold, witty prose on all matters related to the bedroom, Kate Sloan makes this an accessible subject for anyone curious about new ways to spice up their sex lives. Whether you are looking for ideas, clarification, or just an enjoyable read, there is plenty here to keep you intrigued. The text is accompanied by helpful tips and illustrations.

Auf Deutsch gibt es das Buch hier.

A Guide for Adults

Gut dargelegte Infos zu körperlichen Veränderungen durch Transitionsmaßnahmen in Bezug auf Sex sowie Infos zu unterschiedlichen und sicheren Sexpraktiken und Sextoys. Verlagsbeschreibung:

Does a post-vaginoplasty vagina have a G-spot? Why do some trans people find they enjoy anal sex more after testosterone? And can people with post-surgical vaginas experience vaginismus?

Written by renowned sex blogger and educator Kelvin Sparks, Trans Sex is the essential guide to sex and bodies for all trans, non-binary and intersex people. Covering everything from post-surgical anatomy and hormone replacement therapy to sex toys, kink and safe sex, this empowering and practical guide also explores desire, pleasure and arousal (and why these aren't the same thing), how to navigate sex and consent with other people, as well as the difficulties many trans people experience in relation to sex, such as dysphoria and violence.

Raw, honest and nothing like the sex education you received at school, this guide is here to help you on your journey to sexual discovery and fulfilment.

A practical guide for exploring who you are

Ein Handbuch über Sexualität von den nicht-binären Autor*innen Meg-John Barker und Alex Iantaffi. Es erklärt, was Sexualität ist und was für biologische und kulturelle Zuschreibungen und Erklärungen es gibt. Mit vielen Anregungen zum Nachdenken über die eigene Sexualität. Dabei geht es u. a. auch um Trauma und Konsens. Mit Reflexionsanregungen, Übungen und Content Notes vor jedem Kapitel. Die Autor*innen schreiben "we've endeavoured to be inclusive of kinky and non-kinky practices, straight and queer identities, ace and aro experiences, sex that is and isn't a form of work, sex that is spiritual and not, an more, as well as questioning some of these binaries." (S. 27)

Verlagsbeschreibung:

Gay, straight, queer, pansexual, demisexual, ace...? Sexuality is complex and diverse, but it doesn't have to be confusing.

This down-to-earth guide is the ultimate companion for understanding, accepting and celebrating your sexuality. Written by two internationally renowned authors and therapists, the book explains how sexuality works in terms of our identities, attractions, desires and practices, and explores how it intersects with our personal experiences and the world around us.

With activities and reflection points throughout, it offers space to tune into yourself and think deeply about your own sexuality. You'll hear from people across the sexuality spectrum and in different relationship set-ups, and be inspired by the ideas of scholars, activists and practitioners. Sexuality is a vast and wonderful landscape - let this book guide you on your journey!

Weitere Bücher von Meg-John Barker und Alex Iantaffi gibt es hier.

Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory and Letting Go

Lola Phoenix ist selbst neurodivergent, nicht-binär und kennt Ängste und psychische Krisen, d.h. das Buch ist aus einer informierten Perspektive geschrieben, bleibt aber nicht biographisch, sondern nimmt viel professionelles Wissen mit auf. Das finde ich besonders für den Punkt Neurodivergenz und Ableismus sehr wertvoll, weil der so oft bei poly Literatur außen vor bleibt.

Das Buch ist absolut sensibel gegenüber Trauma-Mustern und Triggern und darin sehr empowernd für Menschen, die mit Polyamorie und Nicht-Monogamie strugglen, aber wissen, dass sie es möchten. Liebevoll werden diese Struggle, wie Eifersucht, Selbstvergleiche, Verlustängste angesehen und Lösungswege aufgezeigt.

Das Buch ist so geschrieben, als sei es für Menschen, die ihre Beziehung öffnen wollen, aber es ist auch für Menschen, die schon lange poly/nicht-monogam leben wertvoll und hat mir viele Inspirationen gegeben. Wichtig ist Lola Phoenix, dass es nicht die eine richtige Art gibt, Beziehungen zu leben, weder poly noch mono, und dass auch Scheitern und Schwierigkeiten haben nicht heißt, dass mensch nicht in der Lage sei – sondern dass eins noch Wege suchen muss. Dabei ist besonders im Blick, dass es in einer mononormativen Gesellschaft sehr schwer sein kann, Vorbilder und eigene Wege zu finden. Anhand von konkreten Themen, wie Verhandeln von Zeiten, Regeln oder Keine, Relationship Anarchy, Bedürfnisse, Wie erzähle ich meiner Partnerperson.. geht Lola Phoenix durch die Themen. Gut strukturiert und leicht lesbar, queer, trans und nicht-binär taucht zum Teil explizit auf, insgesamt ist das Buch genderneutral geschrieben. Einzelne Frageteile helfen sich selbst zu reflektieren und Partnerschafts-Gespräche zu führen. (Rezi von flo)

Meg-John Barker über das Buch: A refreshingly honest, comprehensive and realistic guide to navigating non-monogamous relationships of all kinds. Packed with nuance, helpful advice, and self-reflections, this is a gem for new and experienced folk alike, especially those of us living at the intersections of disability, oppression and/or trauma.

Verlagsbeschreibung:

Embarking on a non-monogamous relationship can be a daunting experience, opening old wounds that cause anxiety, fear and confusion, something Lola Phoenix knows about all too well.

In this all-you-need-to-know guide to exploring non-monogamy, polyamory and open relationships, Lola draws upon their years of experience in giving advice and being non-monogamous to provide guidance for every stage of your journey, helping you to prioritise your mental health and well being along the way.

Beginning with advice on starting out - such as finding your anchor, figuring out your personal reasons for pursuing non-monogamy, challenging your fears and practicing self-compassion - the book proceeds to cover the emotional aspects of non-monogamous relationships, including dealing with jealously and judgement, managing anxiety and maintaining independence, as well as practical elements such as scheduling your time, negotiating boundaries and managing your expectations, all accompanied with activities for further exploration.
Whether you are new to non-monogamy, or have been non-monogamous for years, this insightful and empowering book will provide you with the emotional tools you will need to live a happy non-monogamous life.

Weitere Bücher von Lola Phoenix gibt es hier.

a deeper dive into navigating open relationships

As polyamory continues to make its way into the mainstream, more and more people are exploring consensual non-monogamy in the hope of experiencing more love, connection, sex, freedom, and support.

While for many, the move expands personal horizons, for others, the transition can be challenging, leaving them blindsided and overwhelmed. Beyond the initial transition to non-monogamy, many struggle with the root issues beneath the symptoms of broken agreements, communication challenges, increased fighting, and persistent jealousy.

Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern and restorative justice facilitator David Cooley share the insights they have gained through thousands of hours working with clients in consensually non-monogamous relationships. Using a grounded theory approach, they explore the underlying challenges that non-monogamous individuals and partners can experience after their first steps, offering practical strategies for transforming them into opportunities for new levels of clarity and intimacy.

Weitere Bücher von Jessica Fern gibt es hier. Weitere Bücher und Artikel zu Polyamorie findet Ihr hier.

Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non-monogamy

In kürzester Zeit wurde "polysecure" zum Klassiker in der Poly Literatur – es füllt eine Lücke in der bisherigen Poly-Literatur, da es Trauma-informiert ist und die Verantwortung für gelingende Beziehungen nicht nur in die Individuen sondern auch gesellschaftlich legt. Das Buch eignet sich für alle, die Interesse an polyamoren Beziehungen und Beziehungsarbeit haben, gleich ob schon lange poly lebend oder interessiert.

Es beginnt mit einem ausführlichen Teil zu Bindungstheorien und Boundaries. Trauma wird weit verstanden, es geht um Bindungstraumata, aber auch um strukturelle traumatisierende Umstände, wie Rassismus, Armut, Queerfeindlichkeit - Fern spricht vom "nested model of attachment". Bindungs-Theorien werden nicht einseitig dargestellt, sondern auf einem Spektrum und auch immer in Strukturen stehend.

Nach der Vorstellung von Bindungsmustern (Teil 1), wird noch einmal erklärt, was nicht-monogame Beziehungen sind (Teil 2). Im dritten Teil werden Vorschläge zur Herstellung gelingender Beziehungen und Bindungen gegeben. Dabei geht es vorrangig um feste und auf Dauer angelegte Bindungen. Es gibt jeweils Fragen-Teile, die helfen, sich selbst einzuordnen und ins Gespräch zu kommen. Am Ende steht das Modell von Fern: HEARTS, einzelne Schritte, um gelingende Bindungen mit anderen und sich selbst zu formen.

Da es im Englischen und neutral mit „partners“ geschrieben ist, gibt es keine geschlechtsspezifischen Einordnungen, Beispiele sind ebenfalls nicht in Geschlechterrollenzuschreibungen. Gerade da dies bei Attachment Theories so häufig passiert, ist das aus queerer Perspektive sehr angenehm zu lesen. (Rezi von flo)

Verlagsbeschreibung:

A practical guide to nurturing healthy, loving non-monogamous relationships using attachment theory. Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you're striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner?Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual non-monogamy.

Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships. Then, she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships. Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide.

It provides non-monogamous people with a new set of tools to navigate the complexities of multiple loving relationships, and offers radical new concepts that are sure to influence the conversation about attachment theory.

Weitere Bücher von Jessica Fern gibt es hier. Weitere Bücher und Artikel zu Polyamorie findet Ihr hier.

Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities

Whether you're a trembling novice or a jaded expert, there's always something new to be discovered in the endlessly changing, complex and titillating world of kink.

While there are plenty of other books out there that explain how to give a spanking or tie a half-hitch, Playing Well With Others is the first book that explains kink *culture* -- the munches, parties, leather bars, conferences, workshops, fetish nights, exploratoriums and all the other gatherings of kinksters that turn BDSM and leather from a bedroom predilection to a lifestyle and a community.

You'll learn to:

* Examine your own motivations, needs, wants and desires

* Ease your way into established communities

* Understand etiquette in different adventurous sex communities

* Familiarize yourself with the many types of events available to you

* Care for your relationships as you explore new territory

* Negotiate for play and aftercare

* Go back to the "world at large without ruffling feathers

* ...and, of course, answer the all-important question: What do you wear?!

The team of Harrington and Williams offers 30-plus years of experience in diverse kink communities: top, bottom and switch; gay, bi and straight; female, male and trans; white and POC. Both former titleholders and international educators, they are an unbeatable pair of "sexual sherpas" with an inimitable voice and a great deal of wisdom.

Playing Well With Others is an unprecedented and essential guidebook for anyone who wants to explore or understand the "community" aspect of the kink lifestyle.

About the Author:

Lee Harrington is a passionate spiritual and erotic educator, gender explorer, eclectic artist and published author and editor on human sexuality and spiritual experience. Along his journey he has been a brainy academic, a female adult film performer (under his previous name), a world class sexual adventurer, an outspoken philosopher, a long-time sexuality and spirituality blogger (since 1998), a spirit worker and priest, and an award winning writer and artist. Lee's essays, podcast, videos and more are available at passionandsoul.com.

A Guide to Exploring Your Kinks, Dispelling Shame, and Staying Safe

isten up! Humans are kinky!

Kink has been around as long as humans have existed, but comes with an astonishing amount of myths and misunderstandings. This is a sex-positive, shame-free guide to kink for everyone from curious beginners to seasoned kinksters.

This book delves deep in every corner of the kink sphere. It jumps headfirst into the foundations of powerplay, at the differences between kink and fetish, and gives you the low-down on all kinds of bondage and impact play styles, while putting mental and physical health at the forefront. Whether you want a 101 in flogging safely, to plan a roadmap for experimenting with different kinds of niche play, or to learn how to explore what your desires and boundaries are in a fun, consensual and trauma-informed way - this is the guide for you.

With kink exercises, journal prompts, worksheets and agony aunt letters, this has all the practical tools you'll need for a spicy, shame-free kink journey.

The all-time classic “Ethical Slut” is a book that talks about sex, relationships and desire outside of traditional monogamous conventions. It is written in a very personal and accessible way, which makes it easy and interesting to read. It features many personal stories of the authors, but also interviewees and also gives a glossary about definitions.
This newer 2017 edition of Ethical Slut features a more inclusive language, specifically for trans, non-binary and intersex people. This makes it much more comfortable to read about safer sex and pregnancy.
A must read for everyone interested in learning more about polyamory and different relationship styles! (Rezi von Jamie)

Die 3. Ausgabe, veröffentlicht 2017. Aus dem Vorwort: „In this edition [...] you'll find that we've given more attention to people of color, asexual and aromantic people, people in their teens and early twenties, people of nonbinary gender [...]“ (S. 5) und „we will use the gender-neutral pronouns they, them and their whenever possible.“ (S. 7) Die deutsche Ausgabe gibt es hier.

Verlagsbeschreibung:

The classic guide to love, sex, and intimacy beyond the limits of conventional monogamy has been fully updated to reflect today’s modern attitudes and the latest information on nontraditional relationships.

“One of the most useful relationship books you could ever read, no matter what your lifestyle choices. It’s chock-full of great information about communication, jealousy, asking for what you want, and maintaining a relationship with integrity.”—Annie Sprinkle, PhD, sexologist and author of Dr. Sprinkle’s Spectacular Sex

For 20 years The Ethical Slut—widely known as the “Poly Bible”—has dispelled myths and showed curious readers how to maintain a successful polyamorous lifestyle through open communication, emotional honesty, and safer sex practices. The third edition of this timeless guide to the ethics of relationships, communication, and sex has been revised include:

• Interviews with poly millennials (young people who have grown up without the prejudices their elders encountered regarding gender, orientation, sexuality, and relationships)
• Tributes to polyamory pioneers
• Tools for conflict resolution and instructions on how to improve interpersonal dynamics
• New sidebars on topics such as asexuality, sex workers, LGBTQ terminology, and ways polys can connect and thrive

The authors also include new content addressing nontraditional relationships beyond the polyamorous paradigm of “more than two”: couples who don't live together, couples who don't have sex with each other, nonparallel arrangements, couples with widely divergent sex styles, power disparities, and cross-orientation relationships, while utilizing nonbinary gender language and new terms that have come into common usage since the last edition.

Weitere Bücher und Artikel zu Polyamorie findet Ihr hier.

Finances, Childrearing, and Other Practical Concerns of Polyamory

Mit vielen praktischen Beispielen u.a. aus Interviews, die Laura Boyle für dieses Buch durchgeführt hat.

Verlagsbeschreibung:

More and more queer and not-so-queer partners are taking the plunge and deciding to live and parent together. But wait - who lives with who? How do you navigate parenting children? How do you set up your home/finances/bathrooms? Laura Boyle, having interviewed over four hundred people living in every polyamorous configuration under the sun, has the answers for you. Forget 101s on jealousy and New Relationship Energy - this wise and pragmatic guide gets into the nitty gritty of living in polyamorous households long-term.

Weitere Bücher und Artikel zu Polyamorie findet Ihr hier.

What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex

I truly liked this book and I am so grateful for its existence. It took me a while to finish, because it was a lot to process. Ace myself I could relate much, felt seen and understood but also it gave me a lot to think through and figure out. I'm really into learning more and read more books on that topic. I would love allo (means: not ace) people to read this too. We need allies here. (Rezi von Ulla)

Verlagsbeschreibung:

An engaging exploration of what it means to be asexual in a world that’s obsessed with sexual attraction, and what the ace perspective can teach all of us about desire and identity.

What exactly is sexual attraction and what is it like to go through life not experiencing it? What does asexuality reveal about gender roles, about romance and consent, and the pressures of society? This accessible examination of asexuality shows that the issues that aces face—confusion around sexual activity, the intersection of sexuality and identity, navigating different needs in relationships—are the same conflicts that nearly all of us will experience. Through a blend of reporting, cultural criticism, and memoir, Ace addresses the misconceptions around the “A” of LGBTQIA and invites everyone to rethink pleasure and intimacy.

Journalist Angela Chen creates her path to understanding her own asexuality with the perspectives of a diverse group of asexual people. Vulnerable and honest, these stories include a woman who had blood tests done because she was convinced that “not wanting sex” was a sign of serious illness, and a man who grew up in a religious household and did everything “right,” only to realize after marriage that his experience of sexuality had never been the same as that of others. Disabled aces, aces of color, gender-nonconforming aces, and aces who both do and don’t want romantic relationships all share their experiences navigating a society in which a lack of sexual attraction is considered abnormal. Chen’s careful cultural analysis explores how societal norms limit understanding of sex and relationships and celebrates the breadth of sexuality and queerness.

Hardcover (mit kleiner Eindellung am unteren Buchrücken) zum selben Preis wie das Softcover.

Shon Faye grew up quietly obsessed with the feeling that love was not for her. Not just romantic love: the secret fear of her own unworthiness penetrated every aspect and corner of her life. It was a fear that would erupt in destructive, counterfeit versions of the real love she craved: addictions and short-lived romances that were either euphoric and fantastical, or excruciatingly painful and unhinged, often both. Faye’s experience of the world as a trans woman, who grew up visibly queer, exacerbated her fears. But, as she confronted her damaging ideas about love and lovelessness, she came to realize that this sense of exclusion is symptomatic of a much larger problem in our culture.

Love, she argues, is as much a collective question as a personal one. Yet our collective ideals of love have developed in a society which is itself profoundly sick and loveless; in which consumer capitalism sells us ever new, engrossing fantasies of becoming more loved or lovable. In this highly politicized terrain, boundaries are purposefully drawn to keep some in and to keep others out. Those who exist outside them are ignored, denigrated, exiled.

In Love in Exile, Shon Faye shows love is much greater than the narrow ideals we have been taught to crave so desperately that we are willing to bend and break ourselves to fit them. Wise, funny, unsparing, and suffused with a radical clarity, this is a book of and for our times: for seeing and knowing love, in whatever form it takes, is the meaning of life itself.

Weitere Bücher von Shon Faye gibt es hier.

A Step by Step Guide

Das Vorwort empfiehlt das Buch als Ergänzung zu persönlichen Shibari-Workshops oder anderen Unterrichtformaten "in real life". Das Buch ist nicht geeignet für Anfänger*innen von Shibari bzw. Rope Bondage. Nichts konkret zu tin im Buch, daher hier am Ende außerhalb der Reihe mit dabei.

Verlagsbeschreibung:

This detailed reference book of fundamental suspension techniques will help you understand both the ties and the body that is tied. Its easy-to- use structure encourages you to think creatively and adapt everything to your own needs. It emphasises learning for both riggers and models by explaining rope from both perspectives.

All different kinds of bods want to connect with other bods, but lots of them get left out of the conversation when it comes to S-E-X. As explained by disabled cartoonist A. Andrews, this easy-to-read guide covers the basics of disability sexuality, common myths about disabled bodies, communication tips, and practical suggestions for having the best sexual experience possible. Whether you yourself are disabled, you love someone who is, or you just want to know more, consider this your handy starter kit to understanding disability sexuality, and your path to achieving accessible (and fulfilling) sex.

Ace Notes richtet sich an Personen auf dem Ace-Spektrum und enthält neben grundlegenden Infos viele Tipps zu verschiedenen Graden und Formen von Anziehung, Liebe, Sex, Intimität, Beziehungen, Konsens, Erwartungen von Allo-Personen, Ace-Feindlichkeit sowie ein eher kurzes Kapitel dazu, jüdisch und ace zu sein. Es gibt mehrere Interviews mit und Zitate von Personen, die ace sind, darunter Maia Kobabe (Autor*in der autobiografischen Graphic Novel Gender Queer). Weitere Bücher und andere Produkte zu Asexualität gibt es hier.

Verlagsbeschreibung:

Tips and Tricks on Existing in an Allo World

What is the ace lens?
Is my relationship queerplatonic?
Am I sex-favorable, sex-averse or sex-repulsed?

As an ace or questioning person in an oh-so-allo world, you're probably in desperate need of a cheat sheet. Allow us to introduce your new asexual best friend, an essential resource serving up the life hacks you need to fully embrace the ace. Expect interviews with remarkable aces across the spectrum, advice on navigating different communities , and low-key ways to flaunt your ace identity.

Covering everything from coming out, explaining asexuality and understanding different types of attraction, to marriage, relationships, sex, consent, gatekeeping, religion, ace culture and more, this is the ultimate arsenal for whatever the allo world throws at you.

A Guide to Embracing Your Asexual or Aromantic Identity

Veröffentlicht vom The Ace and Aro Advocacy Project geht es um ein weit gefasstes Feld der Aro- und Ace-Spektren. Die Gruppe schreibt über sich: “Our team reflects some of the diversity present in the communities—we are a variety of orientations, races, genders, religions, ages, disabilities, and neurodivergencies, etc. In writing this book, we strive to include many of these perspectives and experiences that are beyond our own.” Entsprechend gibt es Zitate von vielen aromantischen und asexuellen Personen mit verschiedenen Hintergründen, wenn auch, wie die herausgebende Gruppe anmerkt nicht-Westliche und nicht-anglophone Bevökerungsgruppen nicht ausreichend repräsentiert sind. Das Buch richtet sich an jene, die sich fragen, ob sie aro oder ace sind; jene, die aro oder ace sind und nach Tipps suchen; und nicht aro-ace Personen, die mehr wissen wollen und wie sie gute Allys sein können. Weiter Bücher zu Ace und Aro gibt es hier.

Verlagsbeschreibung:

What does it mean to be ace or aro?
How should I approach the challenges that come with being ace or aro?
How can I best support the ace and aro people in my life?
Join the The Ace and Aro Advocacy Project (TAAAP) for a deep dive into the process of discovering and embracing your ace and aro identities. Empower yourself to explore the nuances of your identity, find and develop support networks, explore different kinds of partnership, come out to your communities and find real joy within.
Combining a rigorous exploration of identity and sexuality models with hundreds of candid and poignant testimonials - this companion vouches for your personal truth, wherever you lie on the aspec spectrum. You are not invisible! You are among friends.

How Polyamory Can Enrich Your Spirituality, Faith, and Relationships

Love Beyond Monogamy is a great ressource for all who feel home in religion - and in polyamory as well as those, who are searching a connection between the both.
The author is part of the lgbt community, founder of the website "queertheology" and the book shows this profound knowledge of Jewish and Christian theology; like the fun to read chapter about the sacredness of texts, in which the "Ethical Slut" is analysed as a sacred text for the poly community, showing that the lines are blurry. Despite Judaism and Christianity being the main perspective, it is also informed about other perspectives, like first nation traditions, Muslim and Hindu spirituality. The author empowers the readers to find their own connection to the Transcendent and their own sexuality and relationships - and to communicate and negotiate the needs in relationships; like with a spiritual smorgasbord and talks about commitment, without the religious traditional judgement. As many religious people were facing violence from their communities for being poly and on the other side often feel not understood or excluded by poly communities as believers, this book is stepping in in that void brilliantly. It combines the strength of both - the religious knowledge, like rituals and framing for grief, and the poly knowledge. (Rezi von flo)

Verlagsbeschreibung:

Integrating your spirituality and sexuality can be daunting - these parts of life can feel very separate, even contradictory. Activist, educator, relationship coach and co-founder of QueerTheology.com, Brian G. Murphy, is here to change that.

Exploring the spiritual roots of polyamory and drawing on his own personal perspectives, Brian guides you through essential spiritual and relational notions including love, ritual, commitment and vulnerability to show how the practices of queerness, polyamory, and faith can complement and sustain each other.

Whether you practice non-monogamy or simply want to broaden your understanding of love, this empowering book will break open your assumptions and encourage you to consider the expansive possibilities for (re)structuring your relationships and faith. From advice on healing from spiritual shame, reframing underlying cultural myths, dealing with loss and shame, understanding commitment and faithfulness, and creating meaningful traditions and rituals, this is the perfect companion for connecting with your true values and carving out your own path.

On Gender Liberation and Sexual Freedom

A bold and provocative book centering the voices of trans women and femmes in the pursuit of pleasure and gender liberation.

What are the possibilities of pleasure when we stop labeling our desires? In Trans Pleasure, Brandon Andrew Robinson answers this seductive question by exploring the sex lives of trans women and femmes.

Centering the voices of trans women and femmes through in-depth interviews, Trans Pleasure takes us to the bedroom, to restaurants, to dating apps, and to other spaces that comprise the everyday dating experiences of trans people. Through this erotic journey, Robinson reveals how dominant understandings of sexual identities—which center desires around gender and genitals—harm trans people. They also limit how everyone can love and feel pleasure.

In shifting the focus to comfort and to trans for trans relations, this frank and ambitious book expands our thinking about love, gender, sexuality, relationships, and desire. With this bold exploration of trans pleasure, Robinson makes the provocative claim that discarding sexual identities is the path to gender liberation and true erotic freedom.

What it Means to Be Asexual, Aromantic, Demi or Grey-Ace

Eris Young, nicht-binäre*r und asexuelle*r Autor*in und Herausgeber*in nimmt uns in „Ace Voices -What it Means to Be Asexual, Aromantic, Demi or Grey-Ace“ mit auf einen Streifzug durch verschiedene Themen wie Dating, Community, mentale Gesundheit und Familienleben. Young hat dafür mit zahlreichen Personen gesprochen, die sich auf dem asexuellen Spektrum verorten.

Verlagsbeschreibung:

How do we experience attraction?
What does love mean to us?
When did you realise you were ace?
This is the ace community in their own words.
Drawing upon interviews with a wide range of people across the asexual spectrum, Eris Young is here to take you on an empowering, enriching journey through the rich multitudes of asexual life.
With chapters spanning everything from dating, relationships and sex, to mental and emotional health, family, community and joy, the inspirational stories and personal experiences within these pages speak to aces living and loving in unique ways. Find support amongst the diverse narratives of aces sex-repulsed and sex-favourable, alongside voices exploring what it means to be black and ace, to be queer and ace, or ace and multi-partnered - and use it as a springboard for your own ace growth.
Do you see a story like your own?

Preislich reduziert wegen kleinem Knick in Coverecke und ein paar Seiten.

A practical guide for exploring who you are

Ein Handbuch über Sexualität von den nicht-binären Autor*innen Meg-John Barker und Alex Iantaffi. Es erklärt, was Sexualität ist und was für biologische und kulturelle Zuschreibungen und Erklärungen es gibt. Mit vielen Anregungen zum Nachdenken über die eigene Sexualität. Dabei geht es u. a. auch um Trauma und Konsens. Mit Reflexionsanregungen, Übungen und Content Notes vor jedem Kapitel. Die Autor*innen schreiben "we've endeavoured to be inclusive of kinky and non-kinky practices, straight and queer identities, ace and aro experiences, sex that is and isn't a form of work, sex that is spiritual and not, an more, as well as questioning some of these binaries." (S. 27)

Verlagsbeschreibung:

Gay, straight, queer, pansexual, demisexual, ace...? Sexuality is complex and diverse, but it doesn't have to be confusing.

This down-to-earth guide is the ultimate companion for understanding, accepting and celebrating your sexuality. Written by two internationally renowned authors and therapists, the book explains how sexuality works in terms of our identities, attractions, desires and practices, and explores how it intersects with our personal experiences and the world around us.

With activities and reflection points throughout, it offers space to tune into yourself and think deeply about your own sexuality. You'll hear from people across the sexuality spectrum and in different relationship set-ups, and be inspired by the ideas of scholars, activists and practitioners. Sexuality is a vast and wonderful landscape - let this book guide you on your journey!

Weitere Bücher von Meg-John Barker und Alex Iantaffi gibt es hier.

A Trans and Non-Binary Guide to Intimacy, Pleasure and Relationships

Mit 7 Interviews, die mit insgesamt 12 Personen durchgeführt wurden. Darunter Fox und Owl Fisher, deren Bücher es hier gibt. Verlagsbeschreibung:

In this frank, funny and poignant book, transgender activist Juno Roche discusses sex, desire and dating with leading figures from the trans and non-binary community.

Calling out prejudices and inspiring readers to explore their own concepts of intimacy and sexuality, the first-hand accounts celebrate the wonder and potential of trans bodies and push at the boundaries of how society views gender, sexuality and relationships.

Empowering and necessary, this collection shows all trans people deserve to feel brave, beautiful and sexy.

An Introduction to the Aromantic Community, in Our Own Words

Do you ever feel alienated by the way society presents love? Maybe you find the idea of romantic relationships off-putting, or maybe it's just 'not your thing'. Sound familiar? Aromanticism is a spectrum of identities where people have little to no interest in romance, or only feel attraction under certain circumstances.

This essential book weaves together insights and perspectives from aromantic people across the world, sharing their stories of self-discovery and community. Chapters explore how aromanticism interacts with mental health, dealing with stigma or dismissive attitudes, intersection with different cultural expectations, and more.

Whether you're new to an aromantic identity, have been part of the community for years, or just want to know more, this book will help you understand what aromanticism is and what it means for you.

About the author: AUREA, the Aromantic-spectrum Union for Recognition, Education, and Advocacy, is an volunteer-run organization with a diverse set of members from all over the world. It exists to further the recognition and education of aromanticism internationally by compiling information about aromanticism on the internet and in publications.

An Anthology of Bisexual Voices

The bisexual experience is, by necessity, incredibly diverse - we are likely to be attracted to different genders, form part of multiple marginalised groups, and be perceived (depending on the gender of our partner) in wildly different ways...
This anthology is a radical and ambitious attempt to capture the incredible multiplicity of bisexual identities. With essays that unpack the intersectionality and conflict of bisexuality with history, language, sexual violence, class identity, religion, polyamory, gender critical ideology, fatness, trans activism, the asylum system, literature and anarchy - this collection of bi voices demands to be heard.

With contributions from Shiri Eisner, Hafsa Qureshi, Zachary Zane, Heron Greenesmith, and many, many more.

Preislich reduziert wegen kleinem Knick in Coverecke.

An Anthology of Bisexual Voices

The bisexual experience is, by necessity, incredibly diverse - we are likely to be attracted to different genders, form part of multiple marginalised groups, and be perceived (depending on the gender of our partner) in wildly different ways...
This anthology is a radical and ambitious attempt to capture the incredible multiplicity of bisexual identities. With essays that unpack the intersectionality and conflict of bisexuality with history, language, sexual violence, class identity, religion, polyamory, gender critical ideology, fatness, trans activism, the asylum system, literature and anarchy - this collection of bi voices demands to be heard.

With contributions from Shiri Eisner, Hafsa Qureshi, Zachary Zane, Heron Greenesmith, and many, many more.

What can psychology teach us about sex? How do different bodies and minds respond sexually? How can we prevent people being stigmatised for their sexuality?

The PsycTabhology of Sex takes you on a tour through the different ways that psychologists have researched and theorised, and created and sustained, certain understandings of sex and sexuality. The book explores cultural concerns, such as sex and technology, trauma and consent, as well as drawing on research from sexual communities and the applied area of sex therapy.

When so much of our relationship to sex happens in the mind, The Psychology of Sex shows us how important it is to understand where our ideas about sex, and our erotic desires, come from.

Dr. Meg-John Barker is a writer and illustrator with a background in academic psychology, sex and relationship therapy, and queer activism. They’ve published a number of graphic guides and self-help style books on the themes of sex, gender, relationships and mental health.

Vielfältige Liebe entdecken

Viel Spannendes aus der Geschichte, verständlich dargestellte Studien, aus der Kultur, der Tierwelt, über Vorurteile, Unsichtbarmachung, Ausschlüsse in queeren Szenen u.v.m.

Verlagsbeschreibung:

„Ich möchte die vielfältige Welt der Bisexualität aus dem Schatten holen.“ – Julia Shaw eröffnet neue Wege, über die eigene sexuelle Identität nachzudenken und sie zu finden.

Viele Menschen fühlen sich zu mehr als einem Geschlecht hingezogen. Und trotzdem bekennt sich kaum jemand dazu. Julia Shaw widmet sich in ihrem neuen Buch der größten sexuellen Minderheit – bisexuellen Menschen. Sie macht Bisexualität in Geschichte, Kultur und Wissenschaft sichtbar und zeigt anhand ihrer eigenen Identitätssuche, warum Bisexualität nach wie vor gesellschaftlich im Schatten steht. Dabei geht sie von Fragen aus, die sie selbst bewegen: Woher kommt unser Verständnis von Bisexualität? Warum ist es nach wie vor so schwer, sich zu outen? Julia Shaw beantwortet die Frage, wie sexuelle Identität entsteht, neu. Und sie zeigt, warum vielfältige Liebe endlich mehr Raum erhalten muss.

The Hidden Culture, History and Science of Bisexuality

Viel Spannendes aus der Geschichte, verständlich dargestellte Studien, aus der Kultur, der Tierwelt, über Vorurteile, Unsichtbarmachung, Ausschlüsse in queeren Szenen u.v.m.

Verlagsbeschreibung:

A practical, accessible primer on using parts work to transform shame and self-criticism to authenticity and integrity.

Weitere Bücher von Jessica Fern gibt es hier.

Preislich reduziert wegen Knick im Coverrand.

a deeper dive into navigating open relationships

Preislich reduziert wegen Knick im Vordercover.

What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex

I truly liked this book and I am so grateful for its existence. It took me a while to finish, because it was a lot to process. Ace myself I could relate much, felt seen and understood but also it gave me a lot to think through and figure out. I'm really into learning more and read more books on that topic. I would love allo (means: not ace) people to read this too. We need allies here. (Rezi von Ulla)

Verlagsbeschreibung:

An engaging exploration of what it means to be asexual in a world that’s obsessed with sexual attraction, and what the ace perspective can teach all of us about desire and identity.

What exactly is sexual attraction and what is it like to go through life not experiencing it? What does asexuality reveal about gender roles, about romance and consent, and the pressures of society? This accessible examination of asexuality shows that the issues that aces face—confusion around sexual activity, the intersection of sexuality and identity, navigating different needs in relationships—are the same conflicts that nearly all of us will experience. Through a blend of reporting, cultural criticism, and memoir, Ace addresses the misconceptions around the “A” of LGBTQIA and invites everyone to rethink pleasure and intimacy.

Journalist Angela Chen creates her path to understanding her own asexuality with the perspectives of a diverse group of asexual people. Vulnerable and honest, these stories include a woman who had blood tests done because she was convinced that “not wanting sex” was a sign of serious illness, and a man who grew up in a religious household and did everything “right,” only to realize after marriage that his experience of sexuality had never been the same as that of others. Disabled aces, aces of color, gender-nonconforming aces, and aces who both do and don’t want romantic relationships all share their experiences navigating a society in which a lack of sexual attraction is considered abnormal. Chen’s careful cultural analysis explores how societal norms limit understanding of sex and relationships and celebrates the breadth of sexuality and queerness.

Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities

Polyamory, however compassionate an alternative to monogamy, still operates and is rooted in a racist society. The things that make monogamous dating daunting for people of color—shaming and exclusion by white partners, being fetishized, having realities of everyday racism ignored—occur in polyamorous relationships too, but are often exacerbated by societal misconceptions of polyamory as a game of “collecting” different kinds of lovers.

When these behaviors are unacknowledged and unchecked, polyamory isn’t a more inclusive or compassionate relationship style. Agreeing to “not be racist” or, worse, trying “not to see race” only makes it worse. To make polyamorous communities inclusive, we must all take ownership, acknowledge our part in perpetuating racism, and listen to people of color. These conversations can be difficult and (if we’re being honest) self-incriminating. But they are necessary for us to build a better alternative.

Love’s Not Color Blind puts forward the framework—through research, anecdotal testimony, and analogy—for understanding, identifying, and ultimately confronting the manifestations of racism within polyamorous communities. Whether you’re a community leader or you just like to date a lot, this is an invaluable tool for creating a more inclusive polyamory.

A Memoir of Growing Up Asexual

"When I was in school, everyone got to a certain age where they became interested in talking about only one thing: boys, girls and sex. Me though? I was only interested in comics."

Growing up, Rebecca assumes sex is just a scary new thing they will 'grow into' as they get older, but when they leave school, start working and do grow up, they start to wonder why they don't want to have sex with other people.

In this brave, hilarious and empowering graphic memoir, we follow Rebecca as they navigate a culture obsessed with sex - from being bullied at school and trying to fit in with friends, to forcing themself into relationships and experiencing anxiety and OCD - before coming to understand and embrace their asexual identity.

Giving unparalleled insight into asexuality and asexual relationships, How To Be Ace shows the importance of learning to be happy and proud of who you are.

Ein deutschsprachiges Sachbuch zum Thema Asexualität gibt es hier. Weitere Bücher, in denen Sexualität ein Thema unter mehreren ist, und Accessoires in den Farben der Ace-Flagge gibt es hier.